Do you live with an alcoholic? Does their behaviour change once under the influence of alcohol? Has the mood swing behaviour reached your limit? The most intelligent thing you can do then is to stop trying to get them to give up boozing.
No matter how much you nag and complain at them to stop drinking, it is not going to do a bit of good. I know, it sounds backwards, but when you’re emotionally stressed out, it will be more difficult to help your loved one. You have no verbal power over the alcoholic. What you do is have control over is your actions. What you do and say to the alcoholic will have a direct effect on whether or not they will continue drinking or not.
You must always bear in mind that you are helping the person that you married and loved and not the alcoholic. Ignore them when they have got a drink inside them and they are looking for an argument and ignore any form of emotional nonsense. Make sure it sinks into them the fact that you will not be provoked when they are drunk and stick to your guns.
I guarantee you that they will be extremely persistent and will try everything in their power to break you down, but remain firm. Avoid confrontation at all times by going into a different room, going out for a walk or just putting on some headphones and listening to some music. You are the key to this and only you have the power to make them really see the problems they have.
It is a very sad fact that the person on the receiving end is as mentally and emotionally ill as the alcoholic himself. This is why the innocent party must set their own limits for what they are going to take from their partner while they are drunk.
Whatever you do, dont allow them to see that their behaviour is affecting you as their whole ploy is to irritate you, so make sure you don’t give them that satisfaction. When they do get into a state turn your back on them and try and see right through them to the person you used to know and love.
Their addictive behaviour should not be supported by you in any way including assistance to get into bed. You should not allow them to drive while drunk and don’t let them force you into doing anything to help them while drunk. Never buy alcohol for them and definitely don’t do anything special for them.
As soon as they are sober you need to change your chip and start loving them as you know and show them how concerned you and the rest of the family really are about their health. You will have to remind them of their violent behaviour while they are drunk and how bad you feel when they get into this state. The most important thing is that they really do need reminding in order for them to be able to make any progress.
This is very important when you are living with an alcoholic and this is how you heal yourself from the abuses of the alcoholic. You are not alone and there are some many stories to be found of other peoples experiences at the blog on stopdrinkingadvice.org and you will soon realise that things can change and life can get better.
Author: Ed PhilipsThis author has published 3 articles so far.