You want to know how to get your ex back. After all this time, that one special person who meant the world to you has packed up and left. Now you’re alone and miserable. It’s time to do some soul searching and plan your course of action.
The first thing to do if you want to get your ex back is to determine what went wrong. Don’t confuse this with what actually happened. There is always an underlying cause that created the outcome that occurred. As an example, let’s say your ex left you for someone else. That’s what actually happened. You have to figure out WHY this happened – what went wrong that caused them to find another lover. Understanding this is key to determining what to do next.
Now is the time for some serious thinking. Find a quiet place where you can be alone and relax, and think back to when you first met.
Think about what attracted each of you to one another. As your relationship continued to grow, what were the key reasons you stayed together? It might be helpful to make a list of the things about your ex that you were most attracted to, and the things you did that caused positive reactions from them. As the two of you grew to the point where you started sharing your deepest thoughts, what did they say were the qualities in you that pleased them the most? Getting back to this point would definitely help in getting your ex back.
Once you have relived the early days in your mind, you should be able to see yourself as the person your ex was attracted to. And if you’re completely honest with yourself, you’ll probably realize that that person is not the you of today. This is not really a bad thing; after all, most people do change at some point in time. But it might give you a hint as to why your ex left. Since you are no longer that person, your mate will seek those qualities in someone else.
Let’s focus once more on the example where your ex left you for someone else. When you were in those put your best foot forward days of dating, making your partner happy was your number one priority. You were more than likely attentive, caring, loving and romantic – always making sure your significant other felt like the center of your universe.
But as weeks and months went on and the newness wore off, you started taking your ex for granted. It happens all the time. The pressures of day to day living seemed to get in the way, and the glorious feelings of your romantic moments together were a distant memory. It’s just like the old song The Thrill Is Gone. But don’t feel like you’re the only one – it usually happens with both partners.
Everybody has a need to feel loved, cherished, needed and appreciated by the ones we care about. And rest assured, if you want to feel like this, your significant other does as well. Renewing that love, passion and desire will be key to getting your ex back.
Author: Ruth HazlettThis author has published 2 articles so far.